cadavera vero innumera*

My apologies.

This is controversial. 

It’s not a topic for everyone, it has deep cables into all of our psyches  with razor hooks.

If  you had to decide if a child lived or died, what would you decide? 

If  by saving that life,  the cost could be:

-Two decades of  reduced income, and increased bills.

-having to forego on doing some of the things your friends will be doing

-losing your partner and having  trouble finding another one

-Depression, pain, suffering, guilt, anger.

-possibly your life

Be honest with yourself, what would you decide? 

Would it be different if the situation was one you were partially responsible for? 

Would it be different if  you knew the child would constantly remind you of a terrible trauma?

Would it be different if you knew you would have to take care of the child? 

Would it be different if you were unsure if the child would have a good life? 

You know what I’m talking about… It’s a ‘Hot Button topic’   the topic of abortion. 

The truth is…  Abortion  is often used  as a form of contraception, we all know people who have gone and had the procedure because it was the wrong time for them to have a child. I don’t think we judge these people  one way  or the other.. And I doubt the decision was an easy one for them to make. I do know a few people who decided to carry the child to term and then put them up for adoption… I believe that is much, much harder… It would be wrong for us to judge their actions.  We can only judge our own actions. 

The most common argument for abortion is “ What if the pregnancy is  a result of rape?”

A knee jerk response to that question is  “ Does the child deserve to die for the sins of the father?”

But what of the Woman? 

People have to deal with the consequences of things that happen to them without their consent  often.  

How they deal with the consequences  speaks to their character.  

Some people won’t let anything get them down, they wont let  the past destroy their future. I envy these people, I covet their strength. 

Sexual assault ( which is not gender specific )  could very possibly be the worst type of assault that can happen.  The decision to carry a child conceived by rape to term would be incredibly hard.  The option not to have to do that should be there.  Just as the option to terminate the pregnancy  should it risk the mother’s life should be there.  

Abortion should be legal.  

I think the best argument for abortion is "People have a right to decide how to deal with the consequences of their actions, they deserve that freedom." 

But the bulk of abortion procedures are made by people who are afraid of how being a parent will effect their life.  It is a selfish act.  Don't get me wrong we make selfish acts all the time.  Though our in-actions we let people die all the time. Not just abortions, kids dying of starvation, kids dying of wars, kids dying because they are picked on and can see no way out.  They die all the time… A child dies every three minutes.  

Some of the deaths could be stopped if we were just less selfish. If we saw more than just what we want. 

But is “life” sacrosanct?  Should we kill?  Do we have the right to decide who lives and who doesn’t? 

There is no right answer, just opinions. 

The thing is:

People who are pro life will get angry because they think this is about how they are wrong.

People who  are pro choice will get angry because they think this is about how they are wrong. 

Some will see how this is about the way we think, about what we want, what we need, and what we are honestly willing to do for others.

  

 {I have recently been told that as a Male I had no right to have an opinion on this topic.   I’m not gay, does that mean I don’t have a voice when it comes to gay rights?   I’m not coloured, do I have no right to speak up on racial inequality?  Or am I only allowed to have an opinion if my opinion agrees  with others?

If you honestly believe that because I am a man I shouldn’t speak out, then remember that discrimination is okay. Especially  when you are discriminated against because you don’t have  a Penis.

Total transparency: I am ‘pro choice’ deep down in my heart.  I would hope that people would choose life… in my past I have been part of a decision that chose the alternative to life.  In honesty I wasn’t a big part of that decision, but I was allowed to weigh in, at the time I agreed with the choice to terminate,  It was an informed choice.}

*truly countless bodies